Back from the trip to Hong Kong and Western Australia, and there is so much reflecting to do – only that i haven’t gotten the chance/found the *perfect* time to do so.
Today is Pink Dot Movement day, and it has been one of the topics which has a lingering presence in my mind. Being brought up in a rather traditional/stereotypical Chinese family, our innocence was preserved: our parents oftentimes successfully filter those falling in the ‘LGBT’ category out of our lives. They have always been there; but it is only in recent years that there is an increasing prevalence in actions taken in various communities to accept them and give them the rights as every other human has – the capacity to love.
It was only in my early teenage years (in Secondary School) that I became aware of these people. They look like us, they grow up around us, and exist in our social circles, simply because they are Us (made up of many “U”s). Where we differ is our sexual orientation and the way our mind is wired to think and process feelings, and possibly in that very special gene(s) that they have, but we lack. The LGBT movement was foreign to me, almost a decade ago, but it is something my eyes are now no longer blinded to. Then comes the question that society forces you to take a stand on: White or Pink? Unfortunately, sitting on the fence is not an option.
As Chinese as my parents are, they stand firm to their upbringing that such a behaviour – homosexuality/LGBT is frowned upon. Presumably, a disgrace, if you are one of a kind. My parents would shoot condescending glance at bunks whose hair defines their sexuality, or whose dressing differs from the societal’s ideal of a male/female’s definition of dress up. And behind these people’s backs, they would whisper, “How would you take someone who likes the same gender?”
In this supposedly, increasingly modern society that is “not ready” to accept the LGBT; here comes the Pink/White dilemma. The firm believers of Christianity (and perhaps a growing voice from the Muslims) show little tolerance. The megachurches here persuade people to come in white. The mosques follow suit. The Christians’ argument against the movement, primarily, is to show their support for their religion’s beliefs. Secondarily, it is un-support towards those in favour of the Pink Dot movement, supposedly based on the principle of the condoned definition of a family. The Muslims’ stance is similar.
As white and blank as a piece of paper can be, what does it really mean when one wears white?
- Support for the religion’s practices.
- Their religion’s superiority since it is the definition of what it means to be pure, as the colour symbolises
- An implicit hint of intolerance towards LGBT
- For the “well-being of society”
And what does one represent in wearing pink?
- Either you are IN the LGBT category (coming clean); or
- you are FOR the LGBT (support)
To understand that those in the LGBT may or may not have chosen to be which category they fall in, there must be awareness that life for them has not been an easy journey thus far. An array of hardships they may have gone through since people see them as the ‘lesser’ human, along with personal identity dilemmas or insecurities from their differences, some may even find living through each day a challenge. While it is nice to see communities coming together to support their religion in unison, there are many days for them to do so and not just particularly on the day that the Pink Dot movement falls on. But as imperfect as all humans are, sexuality and the relevant choices does not make those part of LGBT any less of a human. Perhaps people need to realise that. If I bothered to compromise my choice of clothing to limit myself to the colours Pink or White, i would turn up in Pink. Compare and contrast the agenda of wearing the colours and what they symbolise. I choose the latter because it spreads only positive vibes. If life has been a roller coaster ride for the LGBT, I don’t want them to find getting past today any more harder than every other day is. Instead, i want them to know that they have the support they need, and the love and care and concern from the society that accepts them. Not to be mean, but the fourth point by some holy person is utter nonsense. How is it well-being when it becomes damaging to a certain community of the society? Unless, the LGBT is too inferior to be acknowledged as a part of society. Through the positive vibes those in pink send, it excludes the negativity which those in white emit/belch.
So, if it is not for us to judge, then does the one up above slam the gates to heaven on the LGBT regardless of the eternal goodness they have, or a lifetime of good doings they have done, simply because they carry a heavy sin as such? The choice to be true to who they really are seriously ought to be respected, rather than be discriminated. After all, they deserve love, and to be loved, as much as every human does, no? Rather than being so much of a narcissist to stubbornly affirm one’s religion superiority, it would be nice if people could be more forgiving and kinder; give a little more (care/love/concern/support,etc) to those around them who need it.